As I clump around the world after post-surgery nerve damage, forced to depend upon my foot brace and cane, I find myself too often eager to bemoan my circumstances with a howl, an expletive and a hearty, “Why me?”
“Why me?” is the cry of those who experience the inequities of life; the falls, the broken bones, the diseases that would threaten to terminate our lives here on Earth, the loss of jobs, relationships and – above all – the loss of time. But are these truly inequities? Are they not merely a part of life as our paths follow their natural courses?
We forget the truth of the Tao principles that remind us of the inevitable flow of life. All things in nature are dependent upon the yin and yang, the ups and downs, the dark and light. And, so, if we are truly an integral part of this Universe, why do we think ourselves so special that we won’t be afflicted with difficulties – just as we are blessed with joy? What makes us believe we are set apart from others that they may experience the ups and downs of life yet we will be exempt?
Truth be told, when we are given a blessing or a trial along our paths we should be declaring, “Why Not Me?”
“Why not me?” when we’ve have had a minor physical setback. “Why not me?” when we’ve lost a loved one to cancer. And, just as justly, “Why not me?” to have been blessed with a beautiful and loving family.
The Tao teaches us that we are all a part of this Universe in which we live. Just as all things go through the ebbs and flows of their life cycles, so, too, do we. And yet, of all the creatures that inhabit the Earth, we are the ones who are so quick to find inequities.
In this New Year, I have taken a vow to remember that I am living my life under the Universal laws that govern us all. I shall stop lamenting my “fate” of having a minor physical setback. But I shall also stop wondering why I am blessed with my beautiful and intelligent children and grandchildren. Life has handed me the experiences that are meant for me in this realm – for whatever unexplainable reasons they have been sent my way.
It is now up to me to stop asking “Why me?” and turn it around to, “Why not me?” Only then can I take my circumstances and turn them into positive forces that will help propel for me forward through the days I have left on Earth.
How about you? Can you begin to ask, “Why not me?” for both the painful and joyful events of your life? Let the powerful lessons of the Tao enter your consciousness and learn to live with joy and not questions, to live with confidence and not doubt, and to live with the surety that all is as it should be in your life right now, right here, at this place on your path.